Do you need help?

Just Thinking About It
Making a Plan
A Serious Battering Incident
Medical Assistance
Men Can be Victims Too
People who are Violent to their Partners
Accessing Help

Are you at risk of domestic violence?
Are you at risk of committing abuse?
Are you working to end violence against women?

If you are a victim of any form of violence, be it physical, sexual, or emotional, there is help for you. You do not have to suffer in silence. UN Women provides a list of hotline numbers for many countries around the world.

If you are a child and in need of help, you can get help and advice from the website of Child Helpline International.

If you are a young person worried about relationship abuse, you can get advice from this website.

If you have hit or hurt someone or feel the need to control them, you must take responsibility for getting the help you need to change your behaviour. Domestic violence is not inevitable - stopping it is in your hands! (See for example, Men Against Domestic Violence).

If you are working to end violence against women, there are numerous resources to help you and your organisation (see for example, End Violence against Women and Girls)

In the Cycle of Violence, there are many points at which a victim may want help. There are also many points at which a perpetrator may decide to seek assistance with stopping their abusive behaviours. Since Domestic Violence in all of its manifestations is such a big problem globally, including for Barbados, for Grenada and the Caribbean, there is a lot which has been put in place to assist victims, and to assist perpetrators too. Let's have a look at the Cycle of Violence to help determine where you may see yourself in the pattern, and therefore determine what kind of change you need to make in your life, and which agency or group is most suited to assist you.

Just Thinking About It

  • If someone in your life is making you feel very badly about yourself; if they are shaming you, bullying you, coercing or tricking you into doing things you don't want to do, or if they are hitting you or physically harming you in any way, you should have a conversation with someone about this. Do not bear the confusion all on your own.

  • Perhaps you are unsure if your situation is considered abusive, or is considered normal, particularly in your community or cultural context. Why don't you call a professional in your country who can give you straightforward, non-judgemental facts about what is considered abusive? This knowledge will help you make informed choices about what you can do to stop the troubling behaviours which are hurting you.

  • Several people who are being abused get stuck at this "just thinking about it" stage for quite a long time. It is very difficult to take the first step in acknowledging that someone you know, who you may love very deeply, is in fact harming you. However, it is important for you to reach out for that first conversation. Help is there for you if you wish to take it.

Making a Plan

  • If you have determined that you are in fact living in a situation which is abusive and you want to get out; or you want to have the person who is hurting you removed from your home, you can take the next step which is to make a plan.

  • Again, many of the same counsellors you spoke to in the first stage (Just thinking about it) can help take this step with you.

  • If you are a child, you will definitely need professional adult help. The number to call in Grenada is the Child Protection Authority and in Barbados, the Child Care Board. These are the only agencies legally mandated to take actions on behalf of a child. However, you make speak with any of the counselling agencies named above to help you take this step, or even accompany you in making that call and taking that step. Remember too, that all countries in the region will have their equivalent statutory agencies mandated to take action to protect children against abuse.

  • If you are an adult victim, and particularly if you have children for whom you are responsible and who may also be getting harmed, then you will first need to get yourself and your children to safety, and then make a solid plan for your futures.

  • There is an Emergency Shelter for adult women, and an Emergency Shelter for adolescent girls in Grenada, both of which are run by the Ministry of Social Development. In Barbados, the Emergency Shelter is run by the Barbados Professional Women's Club. Please do not delay in phoning them for their assistance with the safety of yourself and your children.

  • Once you are in a safe environment, protected from further harm, you can then seek the legal and psycho-social assistance necessary for planning safe, healthy and happy futures for yourself and your family.

  • This process may take some time, or it may happen in a rush.

A Serious Battering Incident

  • If you are in imminent danger of a battering incident; if you fear that you or a child you know is at risk of harm, or is in fear for their life due to violence, then you should leave the vicinity immediately and go someplace that is safe.

  • Neighbours or family members may be able to give you temporary shelter. Reach out to them.

  • You must call the police, as they are mandated by law to respond to calls of domestic violence and ensure your immediate safety. Reach out to them.

  • Domestic Violence is a crime and it is against the law. The police exist to see about your protection. Once they have arrived and taken control of the situation and ensured your safety, they will advise you on how to proceed with charges against your abuser.

  • If you have been the victim of a battering incident, sexual assault, bullying, name-calling, or any form of emotional or physical violence, the legal, police, and psychological services available in your country are mandated to help you get help and recover. Reach out to them.

Medical Assistance

  • If your battering incident, or sexual assault has resulted in a need for medical services, the General Hospital in St. George's, Grenada is experienced in handling victims of violence as is the Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Bridgetown, Barbados. If you are in another Caribbean country, the main hospital should be able to assist you.

  • Most villages and towns in the Caribbean will also have medical clinics where you can go in an emergency. Throughout Grenada, Carriacou and Petit Martinique, for example, there are over 45 hospitals, medical clinics, or medical stations available. This is also the case in Barbados- there are primary health care facilities across the island and no matter which Parish you are in, there will be a clinic nearby that can meet your medical requirements. There are eight polyclinics offering walk-in and emergency care across the country and numerous private facilities (Barbados Pocket Guide - Clinics). Remember that if you call the police, it is their primary duty to take you to the closest medical centre, and to ensure your medical care as a number one priority.


  • Domestic violence affects each person differently, depending upon many things such as individual resilience characteristics; degree of support and help available; type, severity and frequency of abuse; childhood experiences and whether there are any intersecting factors such as disability, mental illness, pregnancy. Each person will take their own journey to healing; some people may get on very well with their lives while others will find it difficult to function and will need extensive help.

  • The first step in healing is recognising that the abuse is not your fault, you have a right to live free from violence. The second step is sharing the problem with someone who understands and can support you.

  • It is not always easy (and in some instances may seem impossible) to get out of a situation where you are at risk of further victimisation. Leaving an abusive partner can place some women at significant risk of danger and the plan you make may need to take this into account.

  • Whatever steps you take - even if you are only at step one, you may find it helpful to know that it is possible to heal from the effects of abuse

  • If you have been the victim of sexual assault, there is one agency in Grenada which specializes in psychotherapeutic assistance, in both group and individual formats. Telephone Sweet Water Foundation to make these arrangements for yourself or someone you know who is in need of healing. Note that you may call Sweet Water immediately following an incident of rape, or years following. If you were harmed many years ago when perhaps you were a child, and you are only coming across this website now, when you are an adult, it's not too late. Reach out. Sweet Water Foundation provides depth psychotherapy assistance for victims of trauma, at any stage of the lifespan.

  • At the end of this information sheet, we list the numbers and names of agencies in several Caribbean countries. Some of these will provide specialist services. For example, the Legal Aid and Counseling Clinic in St. George's, Grenada runs a number of psycho-educational programs, all designed to help end domestic violence. These are: the Man-to-Man program is a court mandated program for adult males who have been convicted of violence against an intimate partner. The Changes program is a voluntary program for adult female victims of domestic violence, and the Alternatives program is for adolescent males who have come into conflict with the law.

  • 'And finally, please realise that it is not your fault. You do not deserve to be hit, to be insulted and ridiculed, to be touched intimately if you have asked not to be, to be treated like a doormat, to be threatened, attacked with a weapon, shamed..., told what to do when and with whom. You do not deserve to be abused in any way, shape or form.' -

Men Can be Victims Too

(The information in the section below is adapted from

'Abuse is a control issue - abusers believe they have the right to manipulate, control and humiliate another person, and this belief is not only held by some men but also by some women...'
  • Men are frequently victims of abuse in the home, however they face a different set of reasons from women as to why they may not report such violence.

  • Male victims may not recognise their experiences as domestic violence or abuse.

  • Men are often made to feel as if they are the stronger, more aggressive sex and they may not recognise that they are being victimised, they may think it is 'unmanly' to show fear or vulnerability.

  • They often feel that they are less likely to be believed or taken seriously.

  • Despite this, many of the effects of abuse for the male victim of domestic violence are the same as for women. They are likely to feel deeply shamed, frightened, experience a loss of self-worth and confidence, feel isolated, guilty and confused about the situation.

  • Domestic violence is not always physical, and a lot of men, in common with many women, face daily emotional, verbal and psychological abuse in silence for years, their self-esteem being slowly eroded away, more and more isolated from those around them.

  • Even if a man is physically attacked by their partner, he may take the beating rather than hit back to defend himself. He may not want to risk harming his attacker, and he may be concerned that if he does he risks being accused of being an abuser themselves. (

  • Men can also be victims of sexual abuse. A gay victim may be raped by their partner, suffering all the agonies any other rape victim would. Many men in abusive relationships do not feel in control of their own sex life, their partners may demand or coerce intercourse, may make derisory comments about their manhood or ridicule them in public. Any form of sexual contact which is knowingly without consent can be experienced as sexual abuse - regardless of gender. Many men also experience "sex as a reward for good behaviour" and the opposite of being denied any intimacy if they have (knowingly or not) done something to displease their partners, as being an abusive use of sexuality. In an abusive relationship, sex is often used as another form of manipulating and controlling the other person (

  • The information we have given above, about seeking help for victims, applies to both men and women. However we are aware that in the Caribbean, with a paucity of services anyway, services specifically to support male victims of violence are rare. Nevertheless, if you are a man and are being abused or have recently escaped an abusive relationship, please know that you are not alone. There are many men in your situation. Reach out and talk to someone, a friend, an agency, another family member, your Church - wherever you can get help, please do. You have the same rights to protection against violence as do women.

People who are Violent to their Partners

  • There are several models for working with perpetrators of domestic violence, ranging from individual counselling, family-based interventions, community-initiatives and group programmes. Nevertheless in the Caribbean, there are very few specialist services and accessing treatment programmes is usually only possible if one has been convicted by a court or mandated by a court to attend such a programme. There is also a general lack of evaluation information from which to determine which types of interventions are effective. Nevertheless if you are at risk of abusing, controlling or harming your partner, it is your responsibility to get help and there are many informal sources of help.

  • The first step is recognising that you have a problem - linked to this is the acknowledgement that no matter what, you do not have the right to use violence against another person.

  • You may feel ashamed admitting to your behaviour, you may find it easier to blame this on your partner, on stress, on family problems. It will help you to take responsibility by talking to someone about your concerns. Be careful though, don't choose to speak to someone that you know will simply confirm that 'it's not your fault' or that 'she asked for it' - women do not want to be abused. Even if they say or do something that you feel is provocative - you are the one in control. Violence is a choice but you may need help to make a different choice - seek it!

  • One programme about which there is extensive information is the 'Man to Man Batterer Intervention Programme' in Grenada, which is run by the Legal Aid and Counselling Clinic. This programme has been running since 2005 and an evaluation report (conducted in 2013) provides very valuable insights into its impact from the perspectives of men. Why not read this report, especially the comments from the 16 sessions - this would help you to see whether you hold attitudes and values that contribute to the problem. (Google: Man to man programme grenada)

  • You may be helped by reading about other treatment approaches. The majority of established perpetrator programmes in North America and the UK are said to be based on the Duluth model - you could find out what this is all about and see how abusers are helped to change. Other programmes to consider are the Domestic Violence Intervention Project and The Change Project - a community based domestic violence prevention programme. It is primarily for men who want to stop being abusive towards their partners but also works with female perpetrators, and provides individual, partner and group work approaches.

Accessing Help

The advice we offer above is relevant to anyone, wherever they may live in the Caribbean and each country will have its own NGOs and government departments who can provide help. We provide a list at the end of this information sheet (this is neither exhaustive nor comprehensive but provides a good starting point). Since None in Three is being implemented in Grenada and Barbados, we highlight some key agencies in these countries (please note, also check out the specialist agencies also providing help for women in especially vulnerable circumstances, such as disabled women and women living with HIV):

  • To report an incident where a child has been harmed, or is at risk of abuse, abandonment or neglect:

    • The Child Protection Authority of Grenada,
      National Stadium, St. George's, Grenada
      473-435-3396 or 473-405-6990

    • The Barbados Child Care Board
      Fred Edghill Building Barbados
      246-426-2577 or 246-426-2877

  • For Legal and Psychological Counselling around a range of psychosocial and social justice issues and for psychoeducational group programs:
    The Legal Aid and Counselling Clinic
    St. John's Street, St. George's, Grenada

  • For on-line, confidential and anonymous conversations and counsel about how to prevent a child from being sexually abused, or for depth psychotherapy around healing:
    Sweet Water Foundation Helpline
    800-TALK (4444)

  • For general information and assistance regarding the welfare and safety of children and their families:

    • The Ministry of Social Development and Housing
      Ministerial Complex, Botanical Gardens, Grenada

    • The Barbados Child Care Board
      Fred Edghill Building Barbados
      246-426-2577 or 246-426-2877

  • For advice and support concerning domestic violence:
    SAVE Foundation, Barbados
    Hotline 246-432-2873

  • For information on preventing unwanted teenage pregnancies:
    Grenada Planned Parenthood Association
    Deponthieu Street, St. George's, Grenada

Below we include a list of some of the organisations and agencies in the Caribbean which deal with issues of gender based violence, including domestic violence. This list was produced by CAFRA


    • Ministry of Women's Affairs
      Tel: (264) 497-8475
      Fax: (264) 497-3389





    • Belize Organization of Women and Development
      Tel: (501) 2-34460
      Fax: (501) 2-34491

    • Women's Department
      Tel: (501) 2-77397
      Fax: (501) 2-71275




    • Fundashon Centro di Dama Curacao
      Tel: (599) 9-868-4647
      Fax: (599) 9-869-3526

    • Dept. for Welfare, Family
      Humanitarian Affairs
      Tel: (599) 9-7367266
      Fax: (599) 9-7367479


    • Dominican National Council of Women
      Tel: (767)448-3935/7546
      Fax: (767) 448-0690

    • Women's Bureau
      Tel: (767) 448-2401
      Fax: (767) 449-8220



    • Help and Shelter
      Tel: (592) 22-54731,2273454
      Fax: (592) 22-78353

    • Red Thread Women's Development Organisation
      Tel: 592-22-73952

    • Women's Affairs Bureau
      Tel: (592) 22-54362
      Fax: (592) 22-73497


    • Kay Fanm
      Tel/Fax: (509) 45-5174/4221

    • Ministere a la Condition
      Feminine et aux Droits de la Femme
      Tel: (509) 224962
      Fax: (509) 224885


    • Woman Inc Crisis Centre for Women
      Tel: (876) 929-2997
      Fax: (876) 929-0549

    • Women's Media Watch
      Tel: (876) 926-0882
      Fax: (876) 926-0862

    • Bureau of Women's Affairs
      Tel: (876) 754-8575
      Fax: (876) 929-0549


    • The Change Centre
      Tel: (869) 469-1887
      Fax: (869) 469-0794

    • Women's Affairs
      St Kitts/Nevis
      Tel: (869) 465-2521
      Fax: (869) 465-1316


    • St Lucia Crisis Centre
      St Lucia
      Tel: (784) 453-1521
      Fax: (758) 458-1447

    • Dept. of Gender Relations
      St Lucia
      Tel: (758) 453-0557
      Fax: (758) 453-0938


    • Committee for the Development of Women
      Tel: (784) 457-7035
      Fax: (784) 456-1648

    • Dept. of Women's Affairs
      St Lucia
      Tel: (784) 457-2789/456-1925
      Fax: (784) 457-2517




    • Women's Affairs
      Turks and Caicos
      Tel: (649) 946-2801
      Fax: (649) 946-2722/1190

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